Late one night during last week my wife scolded me for being a material freak. In no uncertain terms she let me know I was spending uncontrollably. She claimed I was engaged in buying too much stuff that the children had no time to make use of. (some stuff were still unopened). She insisted I was wasteful. For a response I directed her to my blog (realisticliving.blogspot.com) but as usual reading was too laborious for her. So my son did the honors of reading to her an earlier blog I had posted, "Are You A Deceived Spender". Before he could finish reading, my wife interrupted, emphasising loudly I needed that more than her.
The crux of the whole matter was we did not own a house but was spending on unnecessary stuff. For years now we had been talking and planning to buy a house. But this was like the an elusive dream, that the greedy collusive capitalist were trying to bury. Not having a house was the root cause for several unwanted flare ups in our home. I got try harder.
The week before my wife insisted I was "reliving my childhood" in my children because I had bought a dragonfly helicopter for one of my son. Well where did that come from I could not tell. It had me thinking. Reliving my childhood. Was not a bad idea. Let sleeping dogs lie.
So I decided that I was going to tighten up the screws! Cut down on the expensive lunches. Stop visiting my favorite web sites that usually wakes me up in the night, telling me about "free shipping" and "clearance sale". I was going to stop shopping online and elsewhere, period. I had to do it.
I was going to spend my time in a more worthwhile manner studying for my CPA exams. But even then with my books sprawled open in front of my wide open eyes, in came this loud yahoo flash, like a boom to my brain ...HD DVD was now selling at...What? My mind was too bombarded with buying stuff. Any stuff. Get a grip of yourself I warned myself. Think about the house your family needed.
Anyway I have to run. My head feels like it throbbing.
Friday, June 8, 2007
Thursday, June 7, 2007
The Shadow Man
The Shadow man is there in the home with his wife and kids. He moves about, eats, works and acts like a zombie. He shrugs at everything hurled his way. He appears as if he is always deep in thought.
He is never confrontational. He doesn't argue or stand up for what he believes in. He gives the impression he is fearful of the outcome of his actions or what he might say, so the shadow man is immobilized and weak.
On the other hand his children disrespect him, curses him, treats him like he is a kid. The wife worst yet, walks all over him. She goes and comes as she likes. For weeks on ends she disappears and turns up suddenly and the shadow man swallows quietly whatever she says was her excuse for being away. All he does in these times is to walk out of the door and into the yard and away from reality.
Shadow man forks up all his money to his wife and helps with the shopping, etc. But everything shadow man ever owned belongs to his wife. The car, motor bike, household items, they all belongs to her. Shadow man is a good provider but he is just a shadow. He seems to exist only in theory. But yet he is real!
His wife is infuriated. She cannot stomach nor stand shadow man. She hates him. In fact she despises him. He lacks backbone. He is gutless. He does not bring down his foot on matters like other men would and the way she wants him to. Oh how she wishes for him to be a man. But shadow man would not rise to the occasion.
And now more and more with the passing of time shadow man's wife loathes him. She would have left him long ago for his indifference, except for the fact shadow man was her financier. In her quiet moments mere thoughts of him enraged her.
Long and hard she had thought that the final solution was to walk away from all. Leave shadow man to decay into into his own shadows.
But she could not! He was only a shadow.
Shadow men are now cropping up in many homes in America. Are you one one of them? Stand up and be counted, not as a shadow man but as a real man.
He is never confrontational. He doesn't argue or stand up for what he believes in. He gives the impression he is fearful of the outcome of his actions or what he might say, so the shadow man is immobilized and weak.
On the other hand his children disrespect him, curses him, treats him like he is a kid. The wife worst yet, walks all over him. She goes and comes as she likes. For weeks on ends she disappears and turns up suddenly and the shadow man swallows quietly whatever she says was her excuse for being away. All he does in these times is to walk out of the door and into the yard and away from reality.
Shadow man forks up all his money to his wife and helps with the shopping, etc. But everything shadow man ever owned belongs to his wife. The car, motor bike, household items, they all belongs to her. Shadow man is a good provider but he is just a shadow. He seems to exist only in theory. But yet he is real!
His wife is infuriated. She cannot stomach nor stand shadow man. She hates him. In fact she despises him. He lacks backbone. He is gutless. He does not bring down his foot on matters like other men would and the way she wants him to. Oh how she wishes for him to be a man. But shadow man would not rise to the occasion.
And now more and more with the passing of time shadow man's wife loathes him. She would have left him long ago for his indifference, except for the fact shadow man was her financier. In her quiet moments mere thoughts of him enraged her.
Long and hard she had thought that the final solution was to walk away from all. Leave shadow man to decay into into his own shadows.
But she could not! He was only a shadow.
Shadow men are now cropping up in many homes in America. Are you one one of them? Stand up and be counted, not as a shadow man but as a real man.
When You Think...
It is uncomforting to think you are the one that always seems to have the odds stacked against you. Poor you. Only if you had been rich, or if you had this or that, or if you were smart, or your parents were different, then things would have been different, in fact better. Is this really so? You groaned and complained other folks seems to have all the luck and breaks in the world. Things always going other people way. Why is that so?
Complaining and pitying yourself is your biggest enemies. You are not unlucky. You are not alone in this world to have faced a few stepping stones in your path. Besides you are not alone in this world of complicated economic systems. So the question is how have others managed to triumph in the face of adversity, struggles and harsh difficulties. What are their secrets? Is it possible for you to triumph now, at this stage of your life and be successful?
There is a simple saying, garbage in, garbage out! Translate this to mean what you formulate your life to be is what it will produce. Simplify further, is what your mind conceived as a concept to living, based on what you feed or program it to believing, is what it (your life) will generate. Simply put, change your concepts, life style, mind set, and you would be on your way to having the lucky breaks, success, etc.
Now say with me, "I am blessed. I am prosperous. I am smart. I am intelligent. I seem to have all the lucky breaks. I enjoy living! It is good to be alive! God is with me." Program your mind with these thoughts and watch God do some amazing stuff for you. Remember to give God the glory though. Isn't it amazing how wonderful and creative our minds that God give us, can be when we allow it to flourish on healthy thoughts?
Go spread joy!
Complaining and pitying yourself is your biggest enemies. You are not unlucky. You are not alone in this world to have faced a few stepping stones in your path. Besides you are not alone in this world of complicated economic systems. So the question is how have others managed to triumph in the face of adversity, struggles and harsh difficulties. What are their secrets? Is it possible for you to triumph now, at this stage of your life and be successful?
There is a simple saying, garbage in, garbage out! Translate this to mean what you formulate your life to be is what it will produce. Simplify further, is what your mind conceived as a concept to living, based on what you feed or program it to believing, is what it (your life) will generate. Simply put, change your concepts, life style, mind set, and you would be on your way to having the lucky breaks, success, etc.
Now say with me, "I am blessed. I am prosperous. I am smart. I am intelligent. I seem to have all the lucky breaks. I enjoy living! It is good to be alive! God is with me." Program your mind with these thoughts and watch God do some amazing stuff for you. Remember to give God the glory though. Isn't it amazing how wonderful and creative our minds that God give us, can be when we allow it to flourish on healthy thoughts?
Go spread joy!
Wednesday, June 6, 2007
Are You A Deceived Spender
Material stuff who needs it?
Oh yeah, you need a new car, you need a larger house, you need a new computer, you need...you need...and so it goes.
Lulling you into believing you need a host of material stuff to be happy, the greedy capitalist injects your minds with a steady dose of advertisements and collusive writers. And after a while you become numb in differentiating between what is reality and myth. So you become a spendaholic.
Drugged into believing you need cheap things, the "dollars stores", "close out sales" "clearance", etc. keep up the daily onslaughts on your mind. Spending brings you euphoric "highs" that wears off by the time you get home. Then the real frustrations kicks in and you spew vile adjectives at your spouse and children. Your anger churns up a steady cauldron of hate for every little issue.
Everyday leads you to more frustrations as you become more and more indebted and poorer. But there is no turning back, you have already swallowed hook, line and sinker.
What can you do?
Step back and recognize that you were deceived into believing you needed "stuff" that you really did not need. Recognized a trick was played on your mind. And you were duped, drugged and lulled into believing you needed stuff to make you happy, when in fact that was a LIE!
You don't need stuff to make you happy.
Your family is your real source of happiness. Time with God will bring you indescribable joy. Quality time with friends will help you to be wholesome and relaxed.
Find things to do to make others happy.
Plant a garden. Paint a house or draw a picture.
Become part of a charitable organization.
Think of something good to say to someone.
Finally give away what you have got to the needy! STOP the spending, and watch your live gets better and better, debt free! You DON'T need "all" material things to be happy or to make your family happy. Just spend time with your family. Go for a walk. And you and your family will be happy!
Oh yeah, you need a new car, you need a larger house, you need a new computer, you need...you need...and so it goes.
Lulling you into believing you need a host of material stuff to be happy, the greedy capitalist injects your minds with a steady dose of advertisements and collusive writers. And after a while you become numb in differentiating between what is reality and myth. So you become a spendaholic.
Drugged into believing you need cheap things, the "dollars stores", "close out sales" "clearance", etc. keep up the daily onslaughts on your mind. Spending brings you euphoric "highs" that wears off by the time you get home. Then the real frustrations kicks in and you spew vile adjectives at your spouse and children. Your anger churns up a steady cauldron of hate for every little issue.
Everyday leads you to more frustrations as you become more and more indebted and poorer. But there is no turning back, you have already swallowed hook, line and sinker.
What can you do?
Step back and recognize that you were deceived into believing you needed "stuff" that you really did not need. Recognized a trick was played on your mind. And you were duped, drugged and lulled into believing you needed stuff to make you happy, when in fact that was a LIE!
You don't need stuff to make you happy.
Your family is your real source of happiness. Time with God will bring you indescribable joy. Quality time with friends will help you to be wholesome and relaxed.
Find things to do to make others happy.
Plant a garden. Paint a house or draw a picture.
Become part of a charitable organization.
Think of something good to say to someone.
Finally give away what you have got to the needy! STOP the spending, and watch your live gets better and better, debt free! You DON'T need "all" material things to be happy or to make your family happy. Just spend time with your family. Go for a walk. And you and your family will be happy!
Tuesday, June 5, 2007
Prayer - Does It Really Work
Does praying to an invisible God really works? Does God care? Is God interested in what you have to say? Will God answer and do something tangible about what you have prayed for?
Have you been praying for years without results? What specifically have you prayed for that God did not do something about?
God answers prayers! He heals the sick! He provides for the needy! He opens doors of wealth and prosperity. He is a Father to the fatherless. And above all God is interested in you as a person.
Are you suffering from pain, loneliness, despair. Are you anxious for something? Are you looking for educational success? Are you trying to find satisfaction?
Perhaps you need to first address the void in your heart, that has all these years been silently crying out for God. Allow Jesus into your heart, and then watch the miracles flow.
Prayer works. Be bold! Have someone pray for you.
Have you been praying for years without results? What specifically have you prayed for that God did not do something about?
God answers prayers! He heals the sick! He provides for the needy! He opens doors of wealth and prosperity. He is a Father to the fatherless. And above all God is interested in you as a person.
Are you suffering from pain, loneliness, despair. Are you anxious for something? Are you looking for educational success? Are you trying to find satisfaction?
Perhaps you need to first address the void in your heart, that has all these years been silently crying out for God. Allow Jesus into your heart, and then watch the miracles flow.
Prayer works. Be bold! Have someone pray for you.
Chemistry - The Right Kind
Whether divine input has something to do with it, or not, I don't know, but some husbands and wives just seem to have this right chemistry about them, that everything they do in life, seems to strike that perfect cord. There love making for instance leaves both satisfied, fullfilled and happy.
Whereas with some husbands and wives, discontent from their love making spreads over to the other areas of their lives, resulting in constant bickering and quarelling over little or nothing at all. Their lack of chemistry sometimes translates into violent confrontations, or passive reactions, leading to further frustrations and unhappiness. And the real issue of their chemistry is ignored.
So the question is how do you strike or find the right chemistry. What is the formula? What do you look for in a person? Is compatability the main ingredient? Does physical height has anything to do with it? Or is it attitude that plays a greater roll in striking the right key? Should a believe system be taken into account?
Well some of the above are essential, in striking the right chemistry. Characteristics such as attitude, tolerance, compromises, etc. are fundamental qualities needed. Being sensual, seductive, passionate, emotional, bold, open minded are additional qualities needed to fine tune the formula. So when your spouse wants to explore new ideas, don't get uptight and mean, but be a willing experimentor if the act is wholesome.
Indeed it will take chemistry to keep you satisfied. So work on the formula. Who knows you might have already have the right combinations. Go for it!
Whereas with some husbands and wives, discontent from their love making spreads over to the other areas of their lives, resulting in constant bickering and quarelling over little or nothing at all. Their lack of chemistry sometimes translates into violent confrontations, or passive reactions, leading to further frustrations and unhappiness. And the real issue of their chemistry is ignored.
So the question is how do you strike or find the right chemistry. What is the formula? What do you look for in a person? Is compatability the main ingredient? Does physical height has anything to do with it? Or is it attitude that plays a greater roll in striking the right key? Should a believe system be taken into account?
Well some of the above are essential, in striking the right chemistry. Characteristics such as attitude, tolerance, compromises, etc. are fundamental qualities needed. Being sensual, seductive, passionate, emotional, bold, open minded are additional qualities needed to fine tune the formula. So when your spouse wants to explore new ideas, don't get uptight and mean, but be a willing experimentor if the act is wholesome.
Indeed it will take chemistry to keep you satisfied. So work on the formula. Who knows you might have already have the right combinations. Go for it!
BEST BBQ - BABY BACK
Ever wondered why some BBQ taste so good that you wish you can make it as good as that? Here is a simple way of trying.
Boil the baby back ribs in a pot of water. Add at the beginning, all your seasoning that you like, such as garlic, onion, spices, pepper, etc. After 1/2 of an hour drain the water and put ribs on your grill. Allow both sides of the ribs to cook before applying your sauce. Soon as you apply your sauce twice take off immediately.
YUM. Enjoy!
Boil the baby back ribs in a pot of water. Add at the beginning, all your seasoning that you like, such as garlic, onion, spices, pepper, etc. After 1/2 of an hour drain the water and put ribs on your grill. Allow both sides of the ribs to cook before applying your sauce. Soon as you apply your sauce twice take off immediately.
YUM. Enjoy!
Want To Be A Millionaire?
Want to be a millionaire? What are your plans in becoming a millionaire? Hope to win the lottery? Skylark whilst doing a 8 to 5 job? Watch TV and drink a few bears? Go to church and pray? Steal? Inherit a million in a will? Hoping Bill Gates or Oprah Winfrey will call you?
Wake up! Stop day dreaming! Go get two to three jobs, spend less, save more, cut out or eliminate cable tv, cell phone, reduce voluminous eating, rent a smaller apartment. Spend less! Why buy a 50" tv when a 13' or 19' shows the same stuff a bigger tv will show anyway? Think big, but think also "spend less".
Be faithful. Confine yourself to ONE woman only. Women equals money.
Seek to eliminate all overheads. Don't turn on all your lights, fans, ac units, tv, all at the same time. Only use what is absolutely necessary. Store extra food in your fridge or freezer. Hot up and eat when hungry. NO snacks. Snacks are unhealthy. It causes you to suffer from hunger and excessive fat.
Walk rather than drive. Save on the gas bill. And at the same time improve on your health. Maintain a kitchen garden rather than buy a bowflex. The waste of your stored energy just exercising on a machine can be better used to mow your lawns, plant a garden, play soccer, etc.
Educate yourself further. Get a master or a doctorate or become a licenced professional.
Start a small business. Become a sales agent.
Invest wisely. Scout around and see who is offering you the best rates, deals, etc. And make your money work for you.
Congradulations you are on your way to being a millionaire.
Wake up! Stop day dreaming! Go get two to three jobs, spend less, save more, cut out or eliminate cable tv, cell phone, reduce voluminous eating, rent a smaller apartment. Spend less! Why buy a 50" tv when a 13' or 19' shows the same stuff a bigger tv will show anyway? Think big, but think also "spend less".
Be faithful. Confine yourself to ONE woman only. Women equals money.
Seek to eliminate all overheads. Don't turn on all your lights, fans, ac units, tv, all at the same time. Only use what is absolutely necessary. Store extra food in your fridge or freezer. Hot up and eat when hungry. NO snacks. Snacks are unhealthy. It causes you to suffer from hunger and excessive fat.
Walk rather than drive. Save on the gas bill. And at the same time improve on your health. Maintain a kitchen garden rather than buy a bowflex. The waste of your stored energy just exercising on a machine can be better used to mow your lawns, plant a garden, play soccer, etc.
Educate yourself further. Get a master or a doctorate or become a licenced professional.
Start a small business. Become a sales agent.
Invest wisely. Scout around and see who is offering you the best rates, deals, etc. And make your money work for you.
Congradulations you are on your way to being a millionaire.
Be The Man
Nowadays more women are demanding their men step up to the plate and be a man. Women are fed up with jellyfish type like behaviours from their men, and are demanding that their men show some backbone. You would hear women saying things to weak men like, "stop being a weasel!" "Come on be a man." "Show me what you are made of."
So it is up to the men to stop thinking that being "yes man" will make your woman loves you. Be a leader in your house. Set the pace. Ask for your woman 's contribution. Do some "yard" work. Stop being a jelly belly lying in front of your television accumulating "tyres".
Men don't be sissies! Women hate sissies. Men have you ever heard the term "eye-pass"? It is a another phrase for disrespect. Your woman will disrespect you if you act like "sissie". Act like you are wearing the pants the pants in the house. Lay down the legislation in your home. Rules are neccessary for a successful relationship.
Men your woman wants you to be strong. She needs a strong shoulder to lean on. Be there for her. Love and respect her. Cherish and crush her with love. Be the man!
So it is up to the men to stop thinking that being "yes man" will make your woman loves you. Be a leader in your house. Set the pace. Ask for your woman 's contribution. Do some "yard" work. Stop being a jelly belly lying in front of your television accumulating "tyres".
Men don't be sissies! Women hate sissies. Men have you ever heard the term "eye-pass"? It is a another phrase for disrespect. Your woman will disrespect you if you act like "sissie". Act like you are wearing the pants the pants in the house. Lay down the legislation in your home. Rules are neccessary for a successful relationship.
Men your woman wants you to be strong. She needs a strong shoulder to lean on. Be there for her. Love and respect her. Cherish and crush her with love. Be the man!
Monday, June 4, 2007
No Pie In The Sky
I hate fat. It prevents a person from being mobile and fit. But I like looking lean and mean. No tires around the waist for me. So I exercise two three times per a day. Even in the hot Caribbean sun during my lunch hour in the middays. Running, push-ups and abdominals. Nowadays I even get a ball and throw it against my bedroom wall and catch it. Sometimes I even dove the ball like a soccer player.
So now I am beginning to slim down. Good gosh I am loosing weight. I am beginning to look tall and gangly.
Contrast that with those who eats large portions of food, coupled with chocolate, icecream, etc. and claims they want to look slim. Balderdash! There is no reality about that. No pie in the sky talk. Put your money where your mouth is. Walk the dream rather than talk it.
So now I am beginning to slim down. Good gosh I am loosing weight. I am beginning to look tall and gangly.
Contrast that with those who eats large portions of food, coupled with chocolate, icecream, etc. and claims they want to look slim. Balderdash! There is no reality about that. No pie in the sky talk. Put your money where your mouth is. Walk the dream rather than talk it.
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