Marriage Possible? After Age 35?

What is the most difficult thing to do? Yeah go ahead say it aloud.

You are right? Deciding to get marry after the age of thirty-five and choosing the right person and then going through with it before changing your mind for the umteenth time. Mmm! Yes it is that difficult! It is like rocket science.

Look around you and see how many single folks are still waiting to tie the knots and are over age thirty-five. Many names comes readily to mind. Why are they still single and lonely? Is it their looks? Or is it something that happened earlier in their lives? Lets continue.

At thirty-five most persons are already set in their ways, especially in making certain decisions and doing things a certain way. But marriage requires compromises. Changing sleeping habits, shopping, alone time, tv time, etc. It means compromises! What a dirty word!

Even worst than the above some feel threatened financially! No gold digger was going to come into their lives and rob them in high daylight! Nobody was going to take away their houses, lands, cars, and empty their bank account. Anybody coming into their life had to come with equal footings if not even better.

Now realistically most over the thirty five age persons who are not married, are single and still looking for that person that fit the hypothetical "wealthy, well off, educated career image." And both sexes continue to insist on the right factors or combination of factors to get to the altar.

Lets look at the reasons men put forward for not really getting married to women:

1. Women over thirty five most likely would be bringing their baggages. (kids, financial needs, etc)
2. Washed up. Whatever that means.
3. Disrespectful.
4. Refuse to cook and clean.
5. Want to continue to act as if still single.
6. Uncontrollable

Lets look at the reasons women put forward for not wanting to get married to men:

1. Men must own houses.
2. Must have good jobs.
3. Must have healthy bank accounts.
4. Must be romantic.
5. Be controllable.
6. Be faithful.

Well, well. In fact all the reasons put forward are mere excuse for really not getting married. And this is because of inbred insecurities. Lots of these folks comes from broken homes. In many instances their homes were very abusive. And this translates itself into a cycle. Self esteem and self confidence is rock bottom.

In closing one should note that"if there are no pre-unrealistic conditions" marriage will take place faster. So get out of your box and the next thing that comes along get "cosy" and "hooked-up!"

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