Unhappy and Hurting?

"You have seen them. All bouncy and happy. And inside they are like "white sepulchers with dead bones inside." Don' get caught up with the facade! Look underneath for the rut. And you will save yourself a lifetime of headache and heartache. (This was from an email a friend was sharing with me this morning.)"

So I counteracted: No one is perfect. We all have our faults. We all have baggages. So what do we really do? His lame response was I have a point.

But after discussing the contents of the email a bit more and hanging up the phone, I began to think there indeed might be a lot of folks out there who are bitter and hurting.

Now are you one of those persons who on the outside, look like you are in Zion, eating milk and honey but inside you are boiling cauldron? Then all hope is not lost? What do you think will subside the turmoils, hatred, bitterness, emptiness, loneliness in your life? Your needs?

The answer is simple. Turn your life over to someone who can fill that void. Completely revolutionize your outlook and resuscitate your approach to real living. Sleep happy knowing someone else is carrying your burdens and sorrows.

Someone really loves you.

Are you ready to take this step of faith?

Who is this someone?

His name is Jesus. Call him today! Ask him to show you the way.

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Cheap Phone Calls

Nowadays you can have your your family call you on a US telephone number anywhere in the world where you are if you have internet service available. First you will have to buy the number say from Skype for about US$60 and renew it each year for about the same price. You will also need a skype phone and "skypeout credits. As long as your internet is up and running when ever your family calls the US number your skype phone will ring. This is excellent value for money.

Yahoo also offers a similar service. Yahoo, however is cheaper than Skype.

Even better Skype to Skype is FREE. All you need is a computer and a headset or skype phone. I usually sell these (skype phones) extremely cheap.

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Loose Talk.

Choose what you can handle. Don't go over bounds and harm yourself. Bite what you can chew. These are all sayings to caution those men who want women that are too hot to handle. These are basically women who demands 50/50 or eye for eye in everything. At that rate you will certainly die early.

These women have unrealistic ideals, such as the husbands should cook one meal and they will cook the next meal. Husbands should do laundry one day and they will do the next. And so on. Everything must be split equally. An eye for eye.

If you marry such a woman and your life is hell and miserable. All hope is not lost. There are still lots of good opportunities awaiting. Do your auditing before you engage the client.

Planning For Success

Failing to plan for success is planning to fail. Planning is essential for success as oxygen is to living. Businesses that are growing and spreading has at their core both short term and long term plans. Sometimes the plan is called a budget. And it is usually for one year (short term) or five years (long term).

In a long term plan income and expenditure is budgeted for the next five years. Possible sources of income is determined. Sales, production, etc are all taken into consideration. Marketing strategies are developed. Policies and other strategies are established. Expansion and growth into different locations are incorporated into management long term plans. Then capable staff are hired to implement and execute these projects.

Similarly in an individual life also there need to be plans not just for current issues but long term goals as well. Planning for a house, a car, a computer, a home theater, etc all need careful consideration, in light of priority and current and future resources. Spending should be done with careful deliberation and perhaps consultation over a period of time. It should not be a spur of the moment thing.

I have seen businesses that failed because there is a owner/ manager that spends at the spur of the moment. I have seen people who lost everything because of trivial decisions concerning spending. So treat your money with respect. Plan carefully. And success will walk by your side.

And remember haphazard spending will cause haphazard results.

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Is There A Better Way To Success?

Two weeks to exam. It has been a hard long road to climb. But somewhere down the stretch is a glimmer of light. It will grow brighter with each passing day, I hope. As the saying goes, gold is purified through fire. And all hardship and endless work put into the churner will come hopefully success. Again I hope so.

But is the above really true in a true sense? Or is there a better way? Do we have to toil for so long and hard to enjoy success? What are our alternatives? Do we really need an American dream to enjoy life? How do we define success? What is real happiness?

Do we really need such a big house, such a large TV, such an expensive car? Will something less costly fulfill the same requirement as the so costly? Would our lives not be better without the burdens of liability?

Imagine for thirty years tied up in debts and constantly nagging bills that wearies your soul? How much frustration will you broadside on your loved ones? What neglect of quality time with your offspring do to your health? When will it all stop?

Certainly there is a better way.

Strike a balance!

to continue.

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Marriage Possible? After Age 35?

What is the most difficult thing to do? Yeah go ahead say it aloud.

You are right? Deciding to get marry after the age of thirty-five and choosing the right person and then going through with it before changing your mind for the umteenth time. Mmm! Yes it is that difficult! It is like rocket science.

Look around you and see how many single folks are still waiting to tie the knots and are over age thirty-five. Many names comes readily to mind. Why are they still single and lonely? Is it their looks? Or is it something that happened earlier in their lives? Lets continue.

At thirty-five most persons are already set in their ways, especially in making certain decisions and doing things a certain way. But marriage requires compromises. Changing sleeping habits, shopping, alone time, tv time, etc. It means compromises! What a dirty word!

Even worst than the above some feel threatened financially! No gold digger was going to come into their lives and rob them in high daylight! Nobody was going to take away their houses, lands, cars, and empty their bank account. Anybody coming into their life had to come with equal footings if not even better.

Now realistically most over the thirty five age persons who are not married, are single and still looking for that person that fit the hypothetical "wealthy, well off, educated career image." And both sexes continue to insist on the right factors or combination of factors to get to the altar.

Lets look at the reasons men put forward for not really getting married to women:

1. Women over thirty five most likely would be bringing their baggages. (kids, financial needs, etc)
2. Washed up. Whatever that means.
3. Disrespectful.
4. Refuse to cook and clean.
5. Want to continue to act as if still single.
6. Uncontrollable

Lets look at the reasons women put forward for not wanting to get married to men:

1. Men must own houses.
2. Must have good jobs.
3. Must have healthy bank accounts.
4. Must be romantic.
5. Be controllable.
6. Be faithful.

Well, well. In fact all the reasons put forward are mere excuse for really not getting married. And this is because of inbred insecurities. Lots of these folks comes from broken homes. In many instances their homes were very abusive. And this translates itself into a cycle. Self esteem and self confidence is rock bottom.

In closing one should note that"if there are no pre-unrealistic conditions" marriage will take place faster. So get out of your box and the next thing that comes along get "cosy" and "hooked-up!"

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All Hope Is Not Lost

There is an intelligent little girl down in Guyana. She lives in a home where the mother has little or no interest in the child's education. Worst they are dirt poor. This little girl often misses school, due to the fact the mother sends her down the streets to sell certain items to make ends meet.

One day all this was changed.

The plight of this little girl was described to a few persons. Then one day British Virgin Island Citizen volunteered to sponsor this smart little girls education and to aid in her welfare. Now this child is attending a private school, and all her school supplies are being met. She is excelling!

So hope for mankind is not totally lost. Help in the form of our brothers keeper still exist. Doing good is still part of our traits.

There are still hundreds of children like this today in Guyana. Reach out in whatever way you can and become a candle in the dark to such a child. God Bless you.

The Dogs' World

A new culture of disrespect has slowly crept in on us that has torn the very fabric of our structure of solid family life apart. A woman use to pride herself in her husband and vice versa. Children use to fear adults and conduct themselves in the most respectful of ways, around grown-ups.

But nowadays it is a dog's world. Yapping and barking everywhere. Husbands and wives pretend to be in love, but just hanging in there to see who dies first. The material possessions has created monsters of beauty. And the clock is watched constantly as the days ticked by.

Women no longer need men in their lives, except as guinea pigs to cage. One person in fact has put it that men are now domesticated creatures for women to lord over. Whatever the conclusions, men has become wimps, who like jelly fish bow to pressure in order to stem disgruntlement and problems.

Women has been abused till, even when good comes along it appears distorted. And so sleeping with different men is just formality. There is no perception between nobility and esteem and disrespect. So now good women are pushed by friends to do things that will destroy a happy marriage.

The cycle get more and more vicious. There is this couple I know, where the wife so hate the husband and claims she prays for him to die. The husband who at forty-five prides himself as a ladies' man, boast of all the eighteen years old girls he is the sugar daddy for. In fact he dreads going home to his nagging wife. Well she claims she does not get any sex at home so she has to get it on the street. So the fight continues.

No one wants to leave the house and start fresh. Too much is at stake. So the tongue lashing continues. Lies! And more lies!

Well what ever happened to love?

Tell me.

BVI - IT IS RAINING

It is raining heavily. The sky is dark grey and it is difficult to see in the distance. About a thousand yards, away from my window I could see into the blue dark atlantic ocean, the outline of the Queen Mary II. I was glad for the rain.

Last night the thunder rumbled across the sky for what seems like forever. I had gotten up twice in the dark to go to empty the cistern. On both occasion the window pain trembled at the deep rumblings emitting out from an unknown spot just above my head.

Four thousand miles away in NY, this morning my son had gone to Syracuse on a Spanish trip. His brother meanwhile had gone to work and had called to report he had sold five warranties for Dell. He was bursting with pride on his accomplishment.

Meanwhile I was scratching my head. For weeks now we were planning on buying a used car. Unfortunately we were short about three thousand dollars. Life is tough. But the beauty about life is it is never insurmountable. Where there is a will there is always a chance of getting things done.

Now the rain is coming down even harder. I wish I was home with a book in bed drifting into fable territory. Until another day.